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1. What other meaning could the equation have?
2. A # B, A = C, and that's D
“It’s not that it’s _____ but maybe it’s ______ and that’s _____”
Either redefine internal state or external behavior |
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What will happen to them if they continue to think this way?
“What will happen if you blank? What if ______ happens?”
Use consequence either for positive or negative outcomes. Combines well with Cartesian questioning. |
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1. Why are they saying this?
2. What is the secondary gain?
3. What are they trying to get?
"Why would you say that?"
"What are you hoping to gain from that?"
“You probably only feel that way because you want this ______ good result for yourself.”
Point out that their behavior is not bringing what their intention is wanting. |
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1. What specifically?
2. What are examples of this?
3. What are parts of this?
What is true for the whole is rarely true for its parts. Use this to narrow focus and deconstruct reality. |
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1. For what purpose?
2. What's important about this?
3. What is this an example of?
4. Exaggerate.
What is true for the parts is not always true for the whole. If they are stuck on details move awareness to big picture |
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1. Invert the belief.
2. Make into a universal statement or question.
3. Was there ever a time when A # B?
4. A causes B, not B causes not A.
“Always?” “Never?” If they are using allness framing and universal quantifiers then a single counter example should disrupt the problem loop. |
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| What is another outcome you could shift to? |
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What story will relate to their belief?
Tell a metaphor or story about the solution.
"That's just like when"
Stories lower resistance and bypass critical factor. To practice write down list of random problems and a list of random story elements or objects and link the two. |
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Don't think about it; just use the wording back on itself.
“Oh I’m “xyz” am I? Sounds like a “xyz” thing to say.
Of you are not capable of being “xyz?” Sounds like an “xyz” thing to say” |
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| Hierarchy of Criteria (Values) |
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1. What are higher criteria (values)?
2. Apply current criterion (value) to current sentence.
3. Apply lateral or upward chunking to link seemingly unrelated ideas.
"What's more important x or y?"
"Isn't x more important than y?" |
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1. Something (larger or smaller) they haven't noticed.
2. Different frame, same behavior.
3. Chunk up to Universal Quantifier. |
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How is it possible they could believe that?
"I can't" what would happen if you did?
Performative Deletion. For what purpose are you saying that?
"It's great" How great? According to what standard. Or who says? How is greatness being measured?”"You always/never" Every single time? Never as in never ever? |
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1. Switch Referential Index.
2. Is this true in everyone's Model of the World?
"So in your model of the world you believe ___?" |
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1. How do they represent that belief?
2. How do they/you know if it's not true?
3. Apply current criterion (value) to current sentence.
Good for deconstructing reality boxes. |
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